Greetings from Widows/Widowers Support Group
Being widowed is a club you never wanted to join. Know that we are here to support one another. The Widows/Widowers Support Group assists all ages ...through a time of grief, a time of loneliness, and a time of challenge.
We know that solitude can be agonizing, especially for someone who had never lived alone.
Longing for your mate, feeling the fire of anger, you might scream at them. That first gutteral cry from the heart. Uncontrollable tears can last for hours at a stretch.
Life will not be the same as before your loss. When you wish to be near people, just to sit, come join one of our groups. We don't preach any doctrine. We want to help you understand the new "normal" is where you are today.
When we were first widowed, none of us were educated to know that grief is a normal process that takes its own time. We hope and expect the sense of loss to subside quickly and automatically. But, our emotional triggers overpower us and our world stops. But, we regain strength and we move forward.
Spending some time each day in our own sanctuary or protected place lets us fully grieve. That's better than trying to avoid feelings by sticking to a routine.
Some of us felt guilty as we experienced both grief and release. Yes, you had a deep love, but letting go means you're human. After your loved one dies, we could fear we were partially responsible in some way for their death. No worries, you did everything you could to make decisions based on what information you had to work with.
For a sudden death, it's a crushing loss, if you had unfinished business beforehand. It's common for unresolved feelings to surface after a death. Some of us did seek individual counseling while attending these grief support groups.
You are welcome to attend more than one weekly Widows/Widowers Support Group. Each group facilitator coordinates the sharing of widowed experiences. As an active listener, you can learn what hurts as well as what works.
Acceptance of the death of a loved one marks a transition in life. Being ready to move on involves coping with pain and grief. Someday, you will reestablish priorities and focus on what truly matters. Each day it gets more tolerable. That's our new beginning and we hope to help you get there.